Do clothes make the woman? Some would argue that what we wear is unimportant and our interest in discussing fashion is shallow. Attempting to trivialize the fashion struggles for women over 50 is not only uninformed, it’s naive because what we wear can make or break our confidence which makes it worthy of discussion.
Clothes can be a shield we use to get through challenging times but more importantly tells the world who we are. We’re judged by our appearance, whether we like it or not, and the clothes we wear, matter.
Look sloppy and people may decide you’re careless with little respect for details or yourself. Wear revealing clothes and you may be seen as desperate. Wear flamboyant colors and you may be seen as carefree or loud. The upshot is people treat us based on how we look so managing our image is important.
Women over 50 frequently struggle with feeling invisible. How we dress is a powerful tool to combat that lack of visibility by restoring our feelings of power and control.
Our generation has a challenge with fashion that previous ones didn’t. My grandmother never struggled with what to put on in the morning. She wore her printed house dresses at home and dressed up to leave the house. There was no question about whether she should wear a T-shirt and jeans or a dress with stockings and sensible shoes. There were fewer options because there were unspoken rules.
Our generation doesn’t want to follow fashion rules. We want to make our own choices and dress to express ourselves. This freedom is welcome but it can also leave many women unsure about what’s appropriate. With so many options to choose from, she needs a clear vision of the message she wants her clothes to send.
An open discussion about fashion and image is helpful for many women over 50. Does that make us frivolous? No, it makes us curious, intelligent women. To imply these conversations are unnecessary is to belittle the struggle many women face each morning.
Why this conversation today? Someone attempted to trivialize what we do here and it seriously pissed me off.
Have you ever felt invisible? I have and it left a nasty taste in my mouth.
Thanks for reading and have a great day!