The Value of Clothes: Why What We Wear Matters

The Value of Clothes: Why What We Wear Matters

Do clothes make the woman? Some would argue that what we wear is unimportant and our interest in discussing fashion is shallow. Attempting to trivialize the fashion struggles for women over 50 is not only uninformed, it’s also naive because what we wear can make or break our confidence which makes it worthy of discussion.

Clothes can be a shield we use to get through challenging times but more importantly tells the world who we are. Whether we like it or not, we’re judged by our appearance and the clothes we wear, matter.

Look sloppy and people may decide you’re careless with little respect for details or yourself. Wear revealing clothes and you may be seen as desperate. Wear flamboyant colors and you may be seen as carefree or loud. The upshot is people treat us based on how we look so managing our image is important.


Women over 50 frequently struggle with feeling invisible. How we dress is a powerful tool to combat that lack of visibility by restoring our feelings of power and control.

Our generation has a challenge with fashion that earlier ones didn’t. My grandmother never struggled with what to put on in the morning. She wore her printed house dresses at home and dressed up to leave the house. There was no question about whether she should wear a T-shirt and jeans or a dress with stockings and sensible shoes.  There were fewer options because there were unspoken rules.

Our generation doesn’t want to follow fashion rules. We want to make our own choices and dress to express ourselves. This freedom is welcome but it can also leave many women unsure about what’s appropriate. With so many options to choose from, she needs a clear vision of the message she wants her clothes to send.

An open discussion about fashion and image is helpful for many women over 50. Does that make us frivolous? No, it makes us curious, intelligent women. To imply these conversations are unnecessary is to belittle the struggle many women face each morning.

Have you ever felt invisible? I have and it left a nasty taste in my mouth.

Thanks for reading and have a great day!









  1. Janet
    June 22, 2017 / 4:35 am

    Agreed on all counts! What we wear is an extension of ourselves and I don’t believe it is a frivolous and shallow obsession. I am fortunate that in my personal and professional life I am not viewed as invisible but, at 58, I have started to feel that in public due to my age. It is more obvious on the days I don’t put the effort into my appearance. I won’t dictate to others and I ask the same in return. My appearance is a source of pride and confidence and I will continue to make that a priority – and follow your blog. Thanks!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 7:57 am

      It’s the same for me, Janet. If I put the effort in, I’m more visible which boosts my confidence. Thanks for being here!

      • Sarah Cliffe
        January 21, 2018 / 8:45 am

        Dear Jennifer,
        I read a quote on Facebook yesterday, which I think is relevant here. It went something like this: “Unkind comments from rude people say more about them than they do about you”. What about the mantra: “If you haven’t got something nice to say, then don’t say it?” We all don’t mind nicely phrased constructive criticism because we all like to see different points of view and even learn from them. Anyway, I am digressing! I always admire and respect ladies who put thought into what they are wearing and it certainly boosts my confidence if I am happy with what I am wearing so that I can get the best out of my day! Just carry on with what you are doing because it’s great and we all enjoy reading it! Thank you Jennifer!

        • Jennifer
          January 21, 2018 / 9:33 am

          Thanks Sarah. I do like constructive discussion of style and you’re so right, it’s nice to get other women’s take on an outfit. That said, some mighty unhappy people feel compelled to spread their unhappiness and I want no part of it. Thank you for reading.

  2. Ramona LaChapelle
    June 22, 2017 / 4:36 am

    Could not agree with you more on this, and i don’t always agree with you????
    What we women of a certain age wear, and i might argue that it applies to all women of any age, definitely impacts the way we are viewed and treated. It is not frivolous. It is part of the struggle we face every day in a world that is increasingly misogynistic. We need all the conversation we can get from all sources to help us through these times.
    Keep doing what you do. It matters

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 7:58 am

      Thanks for being here Ramona! I appreciate you sharing.

  3. June 22, 2017 / 4:37 am

    What I hate is when I realized that younger people – say around ages 20 – 30 – start treating older women like everyone is their grandmother! And, then of course, is when you realize that you have become invisible to men, all men, no matter the age.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:02 am

      I hate that too, Linda! Then they start calling me “dear” which makes my head spun. Thanks for being here.

  4. Barbara Daley
    June 22, 2017 / 4:41 am


  5. June 22, 2017 / 4:43 am

    I agree that this is an important discussion. Clothes and how we choose them is a fascinating topic. I see clothing as a form of communication as well as creative self-expression. If clothing were not important to humans, we’d all be wearing a uniform, or maybe nothing at all. I never believe anyone who says he/she doesn’t care about how he/she looks… Admit it or not, we all care about our hair style, the look and comfort of our shoes, the style of our eyeglasses, what to wear to a special event, and so on. Thank you for an interesting discussion.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:07 am

      I never believe them either Cindy. It’s a cop out. Thanks for sharing here.

  6. Marty Howard
    June 22, 2017 / 4:44 am

    It’s easy to say, don’t let the naysayer(s) get to you. I guess I understand the point they’re trying to make. There are big problems in our world, and perhaps deciding what to wear is isn’t high on their list. On the other hand, in addition to reading about fashion for over-50s (or whatever age), I also like to see photos of, and read about food. So I guess there are those who say, we should only eat to live, and the rest is frivolity. But I like to cook, try different cuisines, and enjoy trying new recipes. And, I view this as one of many creative outlets I have. The same goes for clothing, photography, travel, and the arts. Some might argue all of these are “unimportant” and therefore, interest in them, is shallow. But I believe all of these areas (and more) help make our cultures and also make life worth living. Carry on, Jennifer!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:09 am

      Thanks For being here Marty! It is easy to let critics get you down, this gal just picked the wrong topic which has the opposite effect.

  7. June 22, 2017 / 4:46 am

    I couldn’t agree more, Jennifer! Clothes also provide joy, and that’s in short supply at all ages!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:11 am

      Yes, I agree Beth! !Thanks for pointing that out.

  8. June 22, 2017 / 4:46 am

    Over the past couple of years, I discovered your blog and several others (Pam Lutrell, for one). They have been so helpful in helping me rediscover my style as an over-50 woman. I think it’s important for us to feel and look our best because it does make us confident and positive. What you do is NOT trivial at all! Thanks so much, Jennifer!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:14 am

      Thank you Beth! I appreciate you being here.

  9. Carol
    June 22, 2017 / 4:52 am

    First, Jennifer, thank you for sharing your thoughts and expertise in your blog, which I always enjoy reading. With regard to whether discussing fashion for women over 50 is frivolous, I have found that your blog, and a couple of others, have helped me to focus my wardrobe shopping on clothing that makes me feel confident and comfortable. As a result, I have been able to pare back to the wardrobe basics that I really wear and enjoy, and to change my accessories to suit the occasion. Thanks for what you do; wishing you a wonderful day!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:12 am

      Thank you Carol! I appreciate you being here and sharing with us.

  10. June 22, 2017 / 5:14 am

    I agree whole-heartedly. Although I am retired, I feel that the image that I present each day whether it be to grocery shop, volunteer or have lunch with friends, determines to a certain extent how I will be perceived by strangers. Like it or not, we are judged by our appearances. I don’t like to be invisible. In a busy world, others do not have time to “get to know us” so we are quickly classified and dealt with accordingly. I enjoy taking time to curate a wardrobe to present myself in as attractive and contemporary manner as possible.
    My thought about blogs is that if you’re not interested in the topic, don’t read it and as Leslie/ Bungalow Hostess always says “be kind.”

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:15 am

      Thank you Joanne! I appreciate your support and thoughts. Leslie is right 🙂

  11. Eva
    June 22, 2017 / 5:33 am

    Your post is exactly what I have been feeling this week. As a single woman in her 50’s I too struggle with what to wear. I’ve been focused on being a mom and raising kids the past few years. Now my kids are older and I want to dress more like a feminine, single woman and less like a mom without looking desperate or inappropriate. So I enjoy your posts and getting different perspectives.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:17 am

      Thank you Eva! It’s your time and it matters. Confidence can not be underrated!

  12. Robin
    June 22, 2017 / 5:37 am

    Yes, Yes, and Yes to everything you said! I recently attended my 40th high school class reunion and you better believe I thought carefully what I was going to wear. And as I dressed, it did feel a little bit as if I was putting on my “armor”.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:19 am

      Yay Robin! It is armor and can provide confidence and joy! Thanks for being here.

  13. Elizabeth
    June 22, 2017 / 5:43 am

    Thank you for your post.

  14. Leigh
    June 22, 2017 / 5:48 am

    Very well said, Jennifer!I enjoy your posts and find them helpful and encouraging. I agree with what you said. Thank you.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:21 am

      Thanks for being here Leigh. I appreciate you.

  15. June 22, 2017 / 5:49 am

    The one who tried to discount what we do is probably hurting herself. As I discovered, caring for your appearance inside and outside is empowering. It resulted in confidence in my career and joy as I enter each day with a confident smile on my face. I know your heart and that you are here to help women soar. We send messages with our clothing choices whether we like it or not. If we want to be considered strong and intelligent, then our cover should say that. This is anything but superficial…it is helping women to be their best and rise above the superficial standards. The person who commented is not thinking this through.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:24 am

      Thanks Pam! The women who said this is actually an overly confident woman who was trying to hurt my feelings. She missed the mark because it angered me rather than silenced me. What we wear does matter and is a powerful tool in our arsenal.

  16. Karen
    June 22, 2017 / 5:55 am

    This is so true!! I was sick for a long time and didn’t dress well. I always felt very frumpy. Since joining several wardrobe groups I’ve again started to care hobo look. I finally, at 64,felt good about myself. In the last 5 days, an event has taken me back several steps again. I’d had a double mastectomy years ago and have had several reconstruction surgeries. While on a flight to Florida, where we were about to board a ship for a cruise, one of my implants ruptured and leaked. I now have to have another surgery, probably to remove both implants. Now I have to rework my wardrobe,again. No one can tell me that clothes should have nothing to do with how we feel about ourselves! For me it’s everything!!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:28 am

      Oh Karen! I’m so sorry. That’s just a struggle you don’t need!! Good luck on your surgery and thank you for sharing, I’m pulling for you!!

  17. June 22, 2017 / 5:59 am

    Jennifer, so we’ll said. At 65, I feel the same as if I was in my 20s. I wear what I want. Granted, my tastes have changed, and I do a much better job choosing clothes that work for me. As you said, wear what you feel confident wearing.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:30 am

      Thank you Pauline! I appreciate you being here and sharing.

  18. Sally
    June 22, 2017 / 6:03 am

    You go girl!

  19. Louise Dorner
    June 22, 2017 / 6:05 am

    I’m with you Jennifer!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:31 am

      Thanks for being here Louise.

  20. Miriam
    June 22, 2017 / 6:30 am

    I most certainly agree, Jennifer! If I put on a polished, stylish outfit for the day my confidence and self-esteem most definitely go up. Yes, it takes thought and a little extra time, but it is worth it!

    It gets more and more challenging to know what to wear and how to wear it, especially since I am nearing mid-fifties. (And, anything seems to go these days.)

    That is why I am so grateful that you take the time to share (and educate) what you consider stylish. I think the picture you posted sums it up well – what I wear and my own personal style is very important and says a lot about how I value myself. Thanks!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:33 am

      Exactly Miriam! Our clothes speak our message loudly and controlling that message is empowering. Thanks for being here.

  21. Deborah Trimble
    June 22, 2017 / 6:41 am

    Hi Jennifer,
    You are absolutely correct about our concern with fashion and being invisible after the age of 50. Dressing well improves our visibility. I don’t think we should obsess over clothing, but when we make dressing well easy, this enables us to move on with confidence. There is a coffee shop near my home I refuse to patronize any longer after being ignored at the counter in favor of younger customers. And I tip well!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:34 am

      Their loss Deborah! I hate to be ignored. How dare they? Thanks for being here.

  22. Linlee
    June 22, 2017 / 6:42 am

    Since fashion blogs began I’ve become much more interested in not my only fashion choices, but also those of other women. I like to imagine what intention a women had when she chose her outfit. I’ve learned from bloggers that there are no rules and I don’t judge another woman’s choice. I often compliment a piece of clothing. This morning at a coffee shop I complimented a woman’s top. She thanked me and mentioned she was on her way to work. I told her that as a retiree, I like putting a working person ahead of me in line. She was thrilled about that and we both started our day in such a positive way. And it all started from thinking about fashion choices.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:37 am

      Brilliant Linlee! I think insecure women criticize other women’s fashion choices. Thanks for being here!

  23. Diane Caird
    June 22, 2017 / 6:51 am


    You nailed it ! Great post ! Good for you ! The struggle for us is real and we seriously appreciate your posts !

    Best to you,

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:38 am

      Thanks for being here Diane!!

  24. June 22, 2017 / 7:08 am

    Jen – great post. I have frequently felt invisible – that is what our society does to women over 50. It is more important than ever for us to dress with flair and confidence. My style is much more casual than yours, but when I leave the house, I want to be neat, not sloppy, and wear clothes that project who I am. Another thing I notice is that women frequently walk with heads looking down. Poture is so important; stand up as straight as you can and look forward, not down!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:39 am

      You’re so right Barb! Body language is critical. Walk with confidence and you’ll be more visible. Thanks for being here.

  25. LMR
    June 22, 2017 / 7:11 am

    I am sorry someone trivialized your work here! I think it’s extremely important, for all the reasons you so articulately put forth. I look forward to your posts & find them very valuable. Thank you!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:40 am

      Thank you for being here! I really appreciate you.

  26. June 22, 2017 / 7:34 am

    Yes, we certainly are judged by everyone all the time. The art of looking good requires a combination of skills that we actually have to learn and practice. The resources are our mothers and millions of magazines that are selling us stuff. And as you said, the rules changed and we have many choices. It’s very overwhelming and confusing.

    Finding a blog like yours is a treasure. Your approach is the best I’ve ever come across. Your posts are relevant and real, sensible and fun. I’ve learned so much and gotten inspired.

    If we’d be French we would not be having this conversation!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:42 am

      I think you’re right Miriam! The French seem to have an inborn confidence we could learn much from. Thanks for being here!

  27. Jill
    June 22, 2017 / 7:38 am

    It is simple. Those who do not like this blog don’t have to subscribe to it. Those of us who enjoy it are free to do so.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:42 am

      Thanks for being here Jill!!

  28. Patty K
    June 22, 2017 / 7:49 am

    Thank you for putting into words the feelings of many, including myself. Your post is spot on, and I’m sorry that someone was rude. I look forward to your post every day, and you have been very helpful. At 55 it is a challenge to style myself as I’d like to be seen by the world. I appreciate all the help I can get and the friendship that comes from your blog. Enjoy your day!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:44 am

      Thank you Patty! I’m so grateful I can help or inspire in any way. I really appreciate you being here.

    • Margot Nowicke
      June 22, 2017 / 10:10 am

      Well said, Patty!

  29. Carol Neuhaus
    June 22, 2017 / 8:22 am

    Sad that some people really aren’t concerned about how they look or enjoy the thrill of fashion & hitting your sweet spot. It makes life so much more fun. Yes, we all have different interests & life styles, but it doesn’t mean that just because we want to look our best in any situation it’s trivial. Thanks Jennifer, for defending your stance on hitting our sweet spot. When you look good you feel good & often pass that feeling on to others around you. That just helps to make this world a better place to live in… so go girls, keep looking good & pass the good feelings around. Life is too short not to hit your sweet spot. This is from a gal hitting 68 & having fun in the fashion world but still has time for fun things like grandkids, baseball games, gardening, baking dog biscuits, cooking, family gatherings, reading etc. etc. Love your blog everyday, Jennifer.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:50 am

      Hi Carol!! You’re so right. Thanks for being here and making a difference. I really appreciate you.

  30. Judy Dempsey
    June 22, 2017 / 8:40 am

    Thanks for what you do for us Jennifer. You go girl. My mother, Natalie, until her passing at age 89, would get up every morning and put on her makeup, fix her hair and put on the cutest colorful outfits. She loved to go shopping (not always to buy} and the sales associates would always comment on how adorable she looked. And, she had the personality to go along with her colorful outfits. When I would see her (she was 5′ 100 lbs soaking wet) she would put her hand in her pocket, put her foot out and say “how do I look” which always cracked us up.

    So, as you see, fashion made my Mother happy to a wonderful age. Style/Fashion does matter.
    Thank you for your venue for all of us to share.

    Judy in Phoenix

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:54 am

      How fabulous Judy! Fashion is such a powerful tool and it sounds like your Mother wielded it well. Good for her. Thanks for sharing and being here. I really appreciate you.

  31. June 22, 2017 / 8:46 am

    Jennifer, I pretty much love all your posts, but today’s really struck a chord with me. You are correct: Clothes at any age – but especially for women 50+ – are of great value. Why for our age group, exactly (I’m 64)? Because our society seemingly has NO value for us whatsoever. Once we’re no longer of child-bearing age, we become invisible, as you suggested. WE know we’re of TREMENDOUS value to society, so we need to do all we can to remain not only visible, but viable. Women – all women – take a beating in our society (we’re paid less, our healthcare isn’t deemed to be important, control over our VERY OWN bodies is threatened by policies, etc.), but for more mature, seasoned women, the threat is even greater. Please forgive the slightly political rant, but thanks for expressing what I’ve felt for a while.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 8:58 am

      Rant away Candy! You’re exactly right. How we dress is a powerful weapon in the fight against invisibility. Thanks for being here!

      • June 23, 2017 / 6:29 am

        Thanks! And by the way, I read a few style blogs, but YOURS is my very favorite! I like that you are self-deprecating (in the very best way possible!) and that you offer lower-cost options for the gorgeous clothing and accessories you highlight, AND that you let us know when the sales are on! You have become a friend over the “internets!!”

        • Jennifer
          June 23, 2017 / 7:38 am

          Thank you Candy:)!!

  32. Penelope
    June 22, 2017 / 8:58 am

    Well said. As an artist, I take joy in expressing myself through clothing, colors, accessories, etc. How dare someone say such things are trivial? Beauty is a gift to ourselves and the world. It’s importance is even expressed in nature. Flowers are beautiful and accented to attract the pollinators and many birds and fish are decked out in colorful finery which does not fade with age.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 9:00 am

      Excellent point Penelope! Thanks for being here and sharing.

  33. Nancee
    June 22, 2017 / 9:29 am

    Way to go Jennifer! Well said.

  34. Eileen
    June 22, 2017 / 10:05 am

    Dear Jennifer,
    I am restraining myself not to say anything about midriff tops, 3-inch skirts, skin-tight “jeggings” and anything else worn by those who might criticize us classy over-50 ladies.

    But I digress. Let me thank you so much for your blog. I have an auto-immune disease and some days it is a struggle to get out of the house. Your blog has encouraged me to style my hair, put on makeup, go out and strut my stuff (from Chicos, J Jill, Artful Home, etc.). You have encouraged me to jazz up my plain clothes with a scarf, nice piece of jewelry, or handbag. As my sister-in-law and I always say, the older you are the more you need your accessories. She is bolder that I am in her choices, but bold or classic, we are right out there with you.

    I read your blog everyday to see what you recommend and always get ideas. Keep up your blog. You have many faithful followers. Can’t wait to see what you are wearing tomorrow!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 10:39 am

      Thank you so much Eileen. That means the world to me! Very good point about the stilettos and micro skirts. Classy goes a long way. Thanks for being here!

  35. Yvonne
    June 22, 2017 / 10:28 am

    What a great topic of conversation Jennifer. I refuse to be invisible! When I’m out shopping I make it a point to engage with store personnel, clerks, cashiers and even some customers. And I find that I’m always treated with respect and greeted the next time I shop there. My husband used to tease me that I got too dressed up to go grocery shopping, and my reply was that the butcher always remembered me and gave me the best service LOL. How we dress is a reflection of not only our personality but our own self respect.
    Your post reminded me of a scene in the tv show Grace & Frankie. Have you seen it? Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin’s characters are at a variety store to buy something, and are completely ignored by the young male clerk even when Grace (Jane) has a meltdown and starts yelling at him. The end result is that Frankie (Lily) eventually steals the item they had wanted to buy, since nobody would serve them and remarks that was the one advantage of being “invisible”. Actually, there are many ageing and ageism topics that they cover and all done with a great sense of humour.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 10:41 am

      I need to watch that show! That’s a hilarious sounding scene. Some women say the like to be invisible, I don’t so using fashion to look my best it a great tool. Thanks for sharing and being here!

  36. Debbie Z.
    June 22, 2017 / 10:28 am

    Thank you for a wonderful discussion today! I couldn’t agree with you more- clothes and style do matter. I look at it this way- none of us can walk around naked and I have the choice every morning to cover my body with boring, uninteresting clothing or something that is stylish and says something about my personality. It is a way I enjoy expressing myself. I have noticed the “invisible” thing too and have been made to wait in stores. The other thing that irks me is waitresses, etc., calling me “hon” or “honey”. It seems condescending and I feel like they are using it because I am over 60. So rude.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 10:44 am

      It does feel condescending and annoys the heck out of me. I know I receive much better service when I spend the time to dress properly. Thanks for sharing Debbie!

  37. Maureen
    June 22, 2017 / 10:35 am

    I laughed when I read your comment about being called “dear” ! LOL If the person is in their twenties/thirties I just reply with a “honey” in response ! I know that you mentioned that the women that started this conversation ‘appears’ to be very confident, but, I think a statement such as this says just the opposite. She probably dresses to impress, labels matter, fit matters, power suits or whatever are her everyday choice. Sounds to me like a whole lot of thought and time might go into her own “look” !! I always try to remember that Strong women lift each other up. I see her confidence as a facade of sorts.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 10:47 am

      Excellent call Maureen! Some women are impressed by labels and some find them a silly waste of money. It’s how confident the item makes us feel that matters. Thanks for being here!

  38. Cheryl Ann
    June 22, 2017 / 10:54 am

    Jennifer, thanks so much for the reminder on why I care about how I look. Sometimes it feels kind of “frivolous” and sometimes I like being invisible, which is kind of sad. You inspire me to stay in the game! I’m 70 this year and it’s been a bit of a shock! I really feel about 50 but do not want any knife near my face. So, I’m working hard to express my true self, stay healthy, and viable. We recently moved to Nashville (grandchildren) from Seattle…so my style is undergoing some regional changes. Blessings to you my friend.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 1:19 pm

      Thanks for being here Cheryl. Nothing is frivolous that builds our confidence. Good luck with your mind be!

  39. Téa
    June 22, 2017 / 11:13 am

    Sometimes the term “dear”, and the like, is just a substitute for “ma’am” and is regional, and not meant to be dismissive at all. For example, here in Baltimore, Maryland the term “Hon”, short for “Honey” is used across the board, male/female and younger/older……it’s endearing and meant well. There’s even a “Hon-Fest held in B-more every spring, relishing in all things Baltimore and “Hon-like”; bee hive hair-do’s, kitsch and John Waters. Now, I wouldn’t expect a teen-ager to call me “hon”, it’s all in the delivery…much like a well placed “Bless your heart.” And we southerners know what THAT means!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 1:22 pm

      Great point! I had no idea Hon was used so commonly in Baltimore. Even I know what bless your heart means. It’s a priceless expression.

    • Phyllis Hughes
      June 14, 2018 / 6:05 pm

      Tea, I agree with you. “Hon”, “Honey” and “Dear” are not meant to be condescending by most Southerners. However, it is all in the delivery. I work in a medical supply business and it is not unusual to hear our people call customers “Honey” or “Sweetie” as a way of reaching out to them and letting them know we care about their needs.
      If you want to know what “conscending” sounds like, try questioning a bigwig from Medicare about how they make their pricing decisions. The last time I did that, I felt like I needed a shower to wipe the slime off afterwards!

  40. Stormy
    June 22, 2017 / 11:18 am

    When I read this great post this morning, I knew there were going to be lots of comments. No one is saying dressing well will bring world peace, but it has often given me some inner peace and confidence to go through my day. I am over 60 now. I spent years raising my wonderful sons, taking care of house and home. Now I’m taking care of me!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 1:25 pm

      Good for you Stormy!! It is your time. Confidence at our age is priceless.

  41. Konda
    June 22, 2017 / 11:57 am

    Thank you Jennifer. I have learned so much from your blog and please keep the information coming. It has done a lot for my self-esteem to feel more confident about the way I dress at this age.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 1:27 pm

      Thank you for being here Konda! We’re all in this together.

  42. Wendymm
    June 22, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    Love this Jennifer! I refuse to be invisible and anyone says clothes don’t matter is living in another dimension! And I love you and your blog!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 1:28 pm

      Thank you Wendy!! I’m happy you’re here.

  43. Robin T
    June 22, 2017 / 1:55 pm

    I am grateful for your blog and the many others I read. At 62, I find them educational and supportive! I wish my Mom had this in her day. Who doesn’t need assistance or guidance in fashion, make up and hair. Looking good is important to me.

    I enjoy reading your thoughts on downsizing and all the comments that follow. This topic is common with many people of a certain age and countries ????????

    Thanks and keep up the good work Jennifer!

    I’ve noticed there is another Robin 😉 …I’ll go by Robin T

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 5:01 pm

      Thank you Robin T! I appreciate you being here and sharing. I love to get help. Who wouldn’t?

  44. CJ
    June 22, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    You’ve really started a conversation! What a great post, I couldn’t say better myself. I believe I am treated better by store assistants,etc, because I take the time to make sure I look my best when I go out for even the smallest errand. Similar to having good manners, It costs little to make an effort.

    Thank you for always brightening my day!

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 5:36 pm

      Beautifully said CJ. It takes little to make an effort. I love that!!

  45. Tammy
    June 22, 2017 / 5:33 pm

    I enjoyed this so much, I have been told by a few people how they don’t understand why at 55 I bother putting on my make-up, fixing my hair and getting dressed because I am also disabled and am fairly housebound. I always have the same response because I do it for ME. Just because you may get older and health issues may keep you home I feel if I don’t take care of me I might as well dig a hole. I do it because it makes me feel good and when I look good the whole day goes better.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 5:40 pm

      Exactly Tammy!! Bravo to you! It’s all about self respect and the fabulous way it makes us feel. Thanks for sharing with us.

  46. Katie
    June 22, 2017 / 6:13 pm

    Amen to being pissed off and making your voice heard. I appreciate you. Keep up your amazing blog.

    • Jennifer
      June 22, 2017 / 6:44 pm

      Thanks Katie! I couldn’t let this go without speaking up for us!

  47. Y Boyd
    June 22, 2017 / 6:30 pm

    Well said and I agree with you COMPLETELY!!!

  48. Beth Wappler
    June 23, 2017 / 5:24 am

    It is too bad you have had someone trivialize what you are trying to do, but for me and I suspect the vast majority of your readers, it is an important discussion. The effort we put into how we present ourselves to the world tells others how we feel about ourselves and how we want the rest of the world to see us. That is not trivial in any way. Thank you for sharing your tips with us.

    • Jennifer
      June 23, 2017 / 7:37 am

      Thanks for being here, Beth. I agreee with you completely!

  49. June 23, 2017 / 8:13 am

    I love clothes. Always have. As a kid, I sewed things from Vogue patterns to save money. And as an adult, I buy carefully but cheerfully! It’s hardly something to apologize for. If people want to look less-than-their-best, have at it, but don’t criticize those of us with another view! Keep on writing. I love it! XO

    • Jennifer
      June 23, 2017 / 9:14 am

      Beautifully said Jen! I used to see using Vogue patterns too. I don’t think they exist anymore but they were awesome. Xx

  50. Gail
    June 23, 2017 / 8:22 am

    At 74 I Love your Blog. ????????❤️

  51. Julie J
    June 23, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    Greetings from Melbourne,Australia.
    Firstly,go Jennifer!What you do is very meaningful and inspiring to many and please be proud of this achievement.
    Your blog,and a few other blogs,are important to women of our age to remind us to take pride in our appearance and to find stylish clothing options.Thanks also for your genuine recommendations re cosmetics,skincare,etc I believe we should always try to “put our best foot forward”.
    I’m 63 now and have been semi-retired for 7 years and it took quite a while to adjust to all the clothing options I now have.No more work suits for me but I still need to maintain my appearance for my self-esteem and the contented feeling it gives me.I love how a bright scarf,special earrings or wearing something in my favourite colour can make my day when
    I’m not feeling great.
    Thanks once again for all that you do.

    • Jennifer
      June 23, 2017 / 11:24 pm

      Thank you Julie! I am so grateful you’re here and share with us!!

  52. Sandra
    June 16, 2018 / 8:16 pm

    You are never too old to look good. I subscribe to look good to feel good. I will be 50 in November and I feel as if my style has only gotten better. I know whay looks good on me and more importantly I have the confidence to wear it. Women are like fine wines, we just get better with age.

    By the way, I love your blog. I recently discovered your blog and I have to reading my way through older posts. Thank you for presenting a woman of a “certain” age as stylish and fashionable. We need more women to speak up and show us by example that life doesn’t end when you turn __.

    • Jennifer
      December 9, 2018 / 5:05 pm

      Thanks for reading Elaine.

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